Controlling your Response Pt. 1

 Controlling your Response


On a planet of 8 billion people, there are only 2 things you can control: your thoughts and your actions.


We are overwhelmed with people in our lives each day. It is easy to get caught up in blaming the person in the white house, or the big man in the corner office, or your aging parents. That is the easiest way out. But that is the reason for all the madness we experience every day is people giving power to others in the form of blame.


This chapter we are going to focus on the only thing you can control when it comes to interactions with the other humans on this earth: your response.


Emotions are what make us human, controlling them makes you superhuman.


A common phrase you hear in nearly every single place of human interaction is they made me feel this way. They made. Making someone feel a way insinuates that you have control over their mind. You have the ability to hypnotize them. We are quite literally admitting that others have control over our minds. That doesn’t scare anyone in the slightest when they are making this statement, but as soon as you dissect it, you realize how ridiculous it is.


It is definitely easier to feel an emotion because of someone else’s actions. That is the intent of marketing, movies, books, and the news. It is intended to evoke a certain feeling within you. Do these things create the same feeling inside of everyone? Of course not. If they did, advertisements would have a 100% success rate. 


It is our duty as individuals to fight the psychological suggestions and decide what we want to feel. This is empowering. This is total mind control, but within ourselves.


By feeling how you want to feel in situations where most average humans would feel a different way, you are showing who is really in control of your actions and internal state. We all want to be in control but we refuse to be in control. We let ourselves be influenced to feel a certain way and give whatever makes us feel that way all the power. 


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